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ERIN: Okay, Bumble-specific question: How bad is it if you match with someone on Bumble and then don’t write to them within the 24 hours? It seems insane to be forced to live on Bumble’s schedule instead of my own. ZOE: The 24-hour thing puts so much pressure on it, but it also ensures that you’re not letting matches sit forever. because that’ll leave you with fewer matches, but only guys that you actually want to talk to. So there’s so many barriers to entry that it almost doesn’t matter.RACHEL: Yeah, life happens—you don’t have to respond in any sort of time frame. My concern is that Bumble might only give you 24 hours to respond to a guy before you guys unmatch. TAMIM: Ok, but Rachel, if a dude sent you a “hey” on a dating app, would you even respond? So then it’ll be easier to start the convo because you don’t have to be doing it as constantly. RACHEL: I don’t like to be generous with right swipes, though, because I don’t want to be left trying to talk to guys I’m not truly into, or see having a real relationship with.ZOE: I think you need to do what works for you in that sense—if you want to block someone, block ’em. Instead of looking for every person you meet to be the perfect match, treat dates as an opportunity to learn something.ERIN: So what about the opposite thing: people who say “let’s go out tonight” when you’ve only exchanged like two messages? I’ve had great first dates where it was like, “Let’s be spontaneous and not be pen pals.” But also terrible ones. TAMIM: 6) Anyone that has “swipe left” somewhere in their bio. Because really, when else in life do you get to sit uninterrupted across from a complete stranger and ask them you want? Connect that era to today in your mind and you’ll understand how long I’ve been out of the dating game.And now, on the north side of 40 and after the end of a 15-year relationship, I’m basically a time traveler from a world that doesn’t exist anymore. So I assembled a dating-coach dream team to guide me: associate beauty and fitness editor Rachel Lapidos, associate beauty and fitness editor Zoe Weiner, and assistant editor Tamim Alnuweiri.Luckily, I work in an office full of 20- and 30-somethings who are serious experts in the field of Bumble-ology. ERIN: Okay, so as you know, I was in a relationship for the past 15 years, and now I’m single.
I feel bad if I don’t respond, then I resent them for taking up my time.
Blocking or unmatching seems kinder for my personal neuroses, but it all feels kind of wrong. ZOE: if you’re feeling burned out on it, it’s cool to take a break.
TAMIM: If it goes on for too long without them making a move I’ll usually try to start giving short answers and then say something like, “Let me know when you wanna get a drink,” and not respond to anything that’s not to make plans. It can get really emotionally exhausting and disheartening to cycle through all of these people, and stepping away can be really helpful to not feel like you’re going to lose your mind.
ZOE: But I feel like want to give the chance of a conversation, and if they’re a snooze then I can make that decision. ERIN: That actually totally relates to my next question…
Do you block people when this goes on too long without making plans to meet up?
RACHEL: I’ve learned this from Tamim: You NEED to view their social media accounts beforehand. TAMIM: Google search doesn’t do much for me but you can usually use reverse engineering to find them on social media. You can find out they’re really passionate about defending R.